Values are exactly what you know the word means. Values are
the things that YOU value.
The stuff that is close to your heart, that you do giving
your full self and that you'd do whether you'd get paid to do it or not. You're
still evolving and have much more to evolve, I'm sure. But bear in mind son,
that the things you choose to value starting now will shape the man you'll
become. They'll shape your habits, your relationships, your results, your
character and most of all your dreams.
In having values there are 3 things to watch out for though,
to ensure that not only do your values support who you want to be (we'll talk
about principles some other time :) ), but also to manage the risk of becoming
a slave to your own values. These 3 key points are: finding, or better yet lead a tribe that shares your values, ensuring your actions are supportive of
your values and finally that you love yourself enough to know they'll
change and that's ok. Let's talk about them.
Finding, or better yet lead, a tribe that shares your values - don't try to go at life alone, son.
You don't have to, and it makes everything much harder. I have to say this is
something I personally struggle with, as I'm not very outgoing naturally.
Something I'm working on :) in our age the world is instantly connected, and
you look for it you'll surely find people that love what you love and can help
you with advice, friendship and lifestyle alignment with like minded people.
Seth Godin calls it "People like us are part of things like this".
This was crucial for my own fat loss process. Alone, it would have been much
harder but got and gave support to people I've never met.
ensuring your actions
are supportive of your values - once you know what you value, you need to
protect it. And you protect it, by making choices everyday (big and small) that allow you to get spend
your life providing a service or spending effort in attaining what you value.
May sound easy, but life gets in the way son and people generally lose the
sense of urgency that a life worth living begs for, and as a result fail to
experience the feeling of accomplishment that comes from battling through life
and standing up for what you believe in. I hope that's how you choose to live
life. Don't ever lie to yourself, and please don't be delusional about who you
are. Scott Ginsberg mentions it as " You do what you do because you can’t afford not to.
Because that thing makes life possible for you. You do what you do because
you’re ugly when you don’t". Don't be ugly :)
love yourself enough
to know they'll change and that's ok - your values should be such that you
always look forward to protect them, even if at times you may have to come to
great lengths to live by them. But we evolve until we die (we choose so), and
so it's just natural that what you want will evolve as well. Once your values
stop resonating with you (not when they become hard to live by), do a soul
search and ask yourself if that's what you still want, if that's who you still
are and if not, change it. People struggle to let go most of the time, thinking
they're frauds for giving up or changing their goals. Don't do that, son. Be
true to yourself, always, and not a slave to everything that goes through your
mind.
So choose to live life in your terms. Choose what it is you
wish to protect and then, all you have to do is to remind yourself why you do
what you do. If on your waking hours, you have a sense of what you want and
what you need to do to get it, it's impossible to be just another cog in the
system (like most people lead their lives). It'll propel everything you are in
the direction that you chose, and there's no better way to live life.
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